5 Steps to Regain Control of Your Life

By Mitali Rakhit

Do you ever feel stuck? Do you feel frustrated with the way things are going, but also powerless to change it? Well, I did too. For 22 years, in fact, until I took the following 5 steps to turn everything around and get back in the driver’s seat.

  1. Stop Blaming Others

When I felt like I had lost control over my life, it was because I had relinquished it to other people. Friends, parents, professors, or a significant other can all seem to be pulling on the strings of the marionette that you think you are. However, no matter how much it may seem that others are at fault for what is happening to you, the truth is that you are the one acting on your thoughts or their reactions. Therefore, only you have the power to alter your behavior and perceptions. Why let other people dictate how you should live? The choice to live by your own terms is in your hands.

  1. Stop Waiting

There were many times when I remember sitting around waiting for things to happen. Hoping that someone would call me back or magically be able to read my mind. Keeping my fingers crossed for an entire summer that my preceptor at work would notice all the long hours I was putting in without ever advocating for myself. I became much happier and confident once I found myself initiating rather than waiting. Becoming the actor instead of the observer was one of the best changes I have ever made in life to date, and it has only led me closer to the life that I want.

  1. Start Adopting a Growth Mindset

Adopting a growth mindset is not only a key factor in achieving success monetarily, but also mentally and emotionally. Look at everything as a learning experience. I once had a disgruntled entrepreneur insult my physicality and company idea at one of the first networking events I had ever attended in NYC. I was obviously taken aback and hurt at first, but on the train back to New Haven I had a stark realization about the direction of my company that came from taking one of his cruel comments as a point of constructive criticism. This thought process turned Vilasify into a much better product than what I had originally intended it to be.

  1. Start Separating Yourself from the Situation at Hand

Which leads me to my next point, you must start separating yourself from the circumstance you are currently in. You are not a reflection of what someone is saying to you or an event. The universe is constantly in motion through ways we cannot always understand. You are your own individual entity that is completely separate from everything that is happening around you. If someone says something or acts in a way that you find unpleasant, always remember to take a step back and re-evaluate. It may be a very Buddhist way of thought, but detachment is a great way to keep yourself sane in tough times.

  1. Start Asking for What You Want

I have always found that I have gotten the best results from asking for what I wanted. Whether it is a meeting with a CEO, a promotion, or a personal connection, asking for what you want is the best way to make sure you get it. Even in the off chance that you do not get what you originally intended, most people will respect your drive and initiative enough to offer you an alternative. In addition, you will never be left wondering “What If…” and can position yourself sooner to take advantage of the next opportunity that comes your way. As my childhood nanny Greta always said, “One monkey don’t stop no show!”

#StyleJourney with Fern Langham

Loved her at our Blogger’s Summit and want to know more? Check out our latest podcast interview with Fern, founder and CEO of Thyroid.Yoga and co-founder of Bliss Out Wellness!

When her situation and her health left her searching for a new direction she was able to take her life into her own hands. A happy and fulfilling life was her ultimate goal and through self-exploration, self-affirmation and yoga that dream was suddenly attainable. But who am I to tell her story? Listen to her amazing story on Soundcloud and hear it told by Fern herself!

Learn more about Fern’s coaching, events and retreats at http://thyroid.yoga/ andhttp://yogawithfern.com and apply for a complimentary Clarity Session with Fern on Thyroid.Yoga.

Top 3 Pieces of Advice for Young Entrepreneurs from our CEO

By Mitali Rakhit

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I never really thought of myself as the next Voltaire, but I figured I would take a stab at writing and start fielding the thousands of questions I am getting from young entrepreneurs looking to start their own companies.

Here are the top 3 pieces of advice I would give:

  1. Prioritize your goals every day.

It can be hard enough to turn the alarm clock off at 6 AM let alone think about making any kind of list. However, writing something down implies a sort of commitment to making sure it happens. Write your goals down at the start of the day and note everything you want to accomplish. Check back in around 6 PM and note the progress you have made and reprioritize if you need to. Then check again right before sleeping and verify that you have accomplished what you set out to do. If not, make sure to add them again to the new list in the morning.

  1. Partnerships, partnerships, partnerships.

This is the best way to grow your company and build a following. Cross promotion is one of the most ideal and effective ways to grow your customer base and also build long term relationships to grow your network. You have MANY strengths that you are probably not aware of but that someone else can see and benefit from. The same goes for the way that you may view them. Why not offer to help out and grow together? Two heads are always better than one.

  1. Focus on incentive alignment.

I think this can be applied to life beyond business as well. You are never going to have a successful relationship with a business partner, spouse, family member, or customer if your incentives are not aligned. Both people have to be benefiting from the relationship in some way or another. This may not always be tangible either. One person might just feel good from being around the other or from having someone who will just listen to them rant. The concept still stands though, both people are getting something positive out of the situation. Try to think of incentives like stars, once they are aligned, everything is sure to work out in your favor.

Have a burning question for our CEO? Send all inquiries to info@vilasify.com. You could get featured on our blog!

#StyleJourney with the Women Behind Children and Youth First

In our second episode of #StyleJourney we sat down with Haushala Thapa and Amanda Brown from CYF and talked about Haushala started the organization.

In 2008, Nepali 21-year-old Haushala Thapa’s volunteer work led her to discover that a Kathmandu orphanage was abusing its children. So, overnight she mobilized the national police, shut down the orphanage, and rescued all 14 kids. To provide them with sustained access to their fundamental rights, she founded the boarding school Life Vision Academy and the NGO Children and Youth First. In 2013, she founded the Haushala Women’s Cooperative to provide business opportunities and social strength to marginalized women. In the wake of April 2015’s earthquakes, Haushala has also been leading dynamic relief programs that are providing long-term sustainable aid to the most at-risk and in-need villages.

Life Vision Academy currently provides a safe home and progressive education to 45 children, and CYF is in the process of building a larger, better school facility that will accommodate 200 students. The Haushala Women’s Cooperative currently has twenty members, with four new hubs currently training in earthquake-stricken areas. These new hubs will teach earthquake victims how to knit, stitch, and sew, but will also introduce new business opportunities through unconventional craft programs for women such as carpentry and metalwork.

You can check out CYF’s websites for more information on their cooperative and their school. For more about Haushala, she graduated from St. Xaviers College with a degree in social work. Her years of volunteer experience include working with street children through CWIN, youth mobilizing in Norway with Save The Children, mobile clinics for rural areas with Social Action Volunteers Nepal, and the Pashupati nursing home. She has also worked with the Ministry of Women and Children and Social Welfare for the National Center for Children at Risk, helping lost and found children, from 2008 to 2009. She was recognized by VOW magazine’s 2008 “Top Ten College Women” list, and also collaborated with USAID on a short film about AIDS. Haushala now runs freelance training on personality development and leadership in various social work colleges in Kathmandu.

CYF became incorporated in the US as a 501c3 in 2013; we fundraise and advocate here in support of our Nepal team’s work on the ground. Amanda Brown is the Executive Director of this US team and they have team members up and down the east coast. In college Amanda studied education and human rights in Nepal, and was randomly placed into a homestay with Haushala. As soon as Haushala introduced her to the school and cooperative, she was hooked. Ever since Amanda returned back to the states, she’s been leading the US team to support our work in Nepal. Haushala and her husband are visiting our team in the US for a fundraising and promotional tour for the month of July this summer.

Vilasify Presents #StyleJourney

Did you know we started a podcast series?

Yup! We did.

#StyleJourney is all about taking our concept of the #stylejourney we’ve introduced in our fashion work, and applying it to the business world as well. We’re talking to entrepreneurs in the fashion and media industries and discussing where people started, where they are now and what they’ve learned along the way. The series is fun, internationally-focused and is especially great for listeners interested in potentially starting their own business.

To get more of a feel for what we’re doing and to learn more about our show, check it out here.

Right now, #StyleJourney is exclusively on Soundcloud, but we are coming soon to iTunes!

Road to the Blogger’s Summit: The Speakers

As we get closer and closer to the event we’ve been giving you all sneak peaks to who will be speaking. Haven’t seen the posts? Check them out here:

Jia“The Retailer-Writer Connection”

Jia Wertz

Founder & CEO – Studio 15

nicole“Blogging and Business for a Better World”

Nicole Siobal

Founder & CEO – en.JOYYE

jesal headshot“From Tumblr Blog to a Successful Conference Series and Beyond”

Jesal Trivedi

Founding Partner – The Phat Startup

fern headshot“The Mindset of an Entrepreneur”

Fern Langham

Founder & CEO – Thyroid.Yoga

Chris headshot2“Blogger Brand building through PR and Marketing”

Chris Collie

Founder & CEO – FashionsGuyNY

(Bio page coming soon!)

tiffany_pham-c2661125792368c8d4109ffa18a2095b“How to Be Featured in Forbes’ 30 under 30”

Tiffany Pham

Founder & CEO – Mogul

The Road to the Vilasify 2015 Blogger Summit

If you have been following us on social media, you probably know that Vilasify is hosting its first ever Blogger’s Summit in New York City in a few weeks. If not then we’ll just fill you in:

We, at Vilasify are building a community of influential individuals in the fashion and media industry where writers, retailers and designers can work together to build their brand and followings and learn from each other along the way. We have an exciting lineup of successful speakers that are going to share their experiences and share their secrets to brand building.

They’ll teach you new ways to approach writing, the best method of reach your target audience and give tailored advice on how to create long-term and mutually beneficial relationships with retailers and designers. Learn how to further build your audience, expand your reach and build your brand into a multimillion-dollar franchise. This is the perfect opportunity to network, chat about the newest trends and learn about writing and marketing strategy from the best. Join this revolutionary community and transform your blog from ordinary to extraordinary.

Food and beverages will be provided and a portion of our proceeds will benefit our local Girls Inc. branch.

For more information and to purchase tickets visit our event site here!

So in the weeks leading up to the event we will give you exclusive information about our speakers, our cause and what’s next for Vilasify. And of course stay in touch with us over social media for daily updates from our crew.

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